Going on a First Date? Simple Tips to Make it Easy.

With food allergies or any serious, chronic health condition, it is easy to let fear construct unnecessary obstacles.  But remember, your condition is not a reflection of your character and your food allergies are not who you are.  Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

1. Know your reaction to food:  it's hard to easily discuss something personal, when you aren't sure what it is you are discussing!

2. Rehearse your story:  you can't expect someone to be more comfortable with your story than you are, so get your story straight so you can move on quickly to other, more fun topics!

3. Be confident in your character:  we all have our stuff, food allergies / sensitivities are just one of those things.  It is not a reflection of your character.

4. Lead with your weakness: The perfect time to discuss your food allergies is right after you tell your date how happy you are that he asked you out.

5. Use you Food Allergy Filter:  How your date responds to your news might be a good test on whether or not he / she is a suitable partner for you. 

6. Leave your own baggage at the door:  You might want to overcompensate, feel ashamed, be defensive... if you have feelings that come up, ask yourself "why?", and then leave them at the door. Don't project your insecruities onto your date!

7.  Go have fun!:  Even though you must control your food, you don’t have to control your date.  Simply be aware of other areas in which you can be more flexible. For example, if you have a list of restaurants that can serve you, let him surprise you from that list.

Read more:  Love & The Tender Foodie - First Dates